I’ve seen so many people talking about the stigma between social media and real life. Nobody’s life is how it appears on social media, everyone lies, everyone enhances and everyone makes their life seem perfect… after all isn’t that what social media is about?
Lately I’ve been feeling inadequate on instagram. It’s hard not to compare when you see other people on social media who appear perfect. It’s tough when you see people building their dream homes, or moms wearing the cute expensive clothes. But guess what? Nobody. Is. Perfect. These perfect photos have stories behind them too, messy homes, children who misbehave, their own struggles in their own home. This is one of the reasons I’m so real and raw on social media. I don’t ever want people to think I’m someone who thinks they’re perfect. I’m far from perfect and I’m not afraid to admit that.
Social media is about showing off the best version of yourself. It’s about showing other people the good parts of your life. More and more instagrammers are starting to show their “real” life on their stories. Instagram stories are more of the truth, they’re real life, where as posts are staged, edited photos. I love Instagram stories for this reason. I get to see what people are doing on a day to day basis and how everyone has a life behind social media. Not all of us have the perfect home, clothes, cars or the perfect situation.
I try to be open and honest on social media. I portray pretty staged photos but I never try to act like my life is perfect because it’s far from. I struggle just like we ALL do. I struggle with anxiety. I struggle with money. I struggle with parenthood. I struggle with lack of sleep. I’m not perfect and I won’t ever pretend that I am. Yes, I am insanely happy with my husband and my daughter but that doesn’t mean my life doesn’t have obstacles.
In the long run all that matters is the love in your home. The love between you and your children and your spouse. The perfect life doesn’t exist, but the perfect amount of love does. My daughter and my husband know how much I love them. I live for the moments the three of us all hug and kiss in our tiny kitchen. My family and the love we share is all that matters to me, not the importance of looking perfect.
I think we all need to remember that Instagram is like an art show, you don’t know what goes on to get that pretty picture or what goes on in the artists real life, it’s just pictures. That’s all it is at the end of the day.